My Valentine’s Day Love Story (2009)
I was single for the first time in – well, almost ever lol. And – DATING for the first time. Actually dating… (i’d gone from one serious thing to the next). I was fresh out of a stale 9 year relationship that ended on the second worst note that any relationship could end on (some of you know what i’m talking about).
Needless to say – i was carrying a bit of baggage. Not the the baggage ‘damaged’ me in any irrecoverable way or anything… but, the thing that happened to my (and my kids) would definitely be a weight for anyone new in my life. I’d given up on love – on the idea of love. I hadn’t entirely dismissed it mind you. I just wasn’t looking for it and would have been perfectly content if it never came along.
So there i was on a dating site (omg… me… on a dating site? I couldn’t believe it! lol) and shortly after arriving there i met this man (SG). He was kind, and considerate, and never inappropriate. He was also consistent and trustworthy and non-judgemental. He became my friend. My penpal. But i didn’t think much more at the time – maybe he was just too good of a guy (you know what i mean ladies…lol).
So five months later (after i’d gone on several unsuccessful dates – a few of which are funny stories in and of themselves!), i had a lap top for the first time. And the lap top had a web cam on it (i’d never really used one before) and i thought to myself, “Self… Who do you know that won’t try and whip his dick out in the first 20 seconds of being on a webcam?” And it hit me. SG! (of course that’s not his real name… lol)
So the next time he was online – i asked him if he’d like to talk on webcam. He said, “Sure.” So – we turned the cams on.
ME: Oh…. shit. i’m in trouble here. Big time trouble…… in a good way… and i don’t care!
HIM: (this is embarassing to say outloud, but it’s true – it’s what he thought) She’s way too hot for me… There’s no way she’s gunna be into me, so I’m just going to act like myself. I have nothing to lose.
So there’s me, being smitten already – with him picking up a little of those vibes.
And there’s him – with his non-cocky self-confidence and me picking up on those vibes… We met in person (at a StarBucks). It was supposed to be just a coffee. That turned into a walk. That turned into a dinner. And that turned into two goofy teenage like people sitting in the car at the end of the night, completely floored by each other.
He asked, “Can I kiss you?” And i said, “Yes. But… i have to say i’m a little nervous actually.” (which is COMPLETELY unlike me)
That’s when it hit HIM that i really WAS into him. The rest is history…. and present … and future.
We met online in May of 2007.
We met in person in September 2007.
We’re getting married in September 2009.
~BIG CHEESY GRIN~
